NICE GUYS VS. JERKS
The notion that nice guys finish last while jerks end up with the girl is not a new concept. The question that is probably on your mind is why? Why wouldn’t a woman want to be with someone that treats her good, respects her, and is always there to make sure she is alright?
Let’s take a look at the nice guys thought process. The nice guy is often kind, polite, friendly, considerate, romantic and caring. This is the exact reason that the nice guy always fails. He demonstrates qualities that should be avoided throughout the attraction stages. Once she’s your girlfriend you can ease into the nice guy routine.
Being a nice guy doesn’t create a powerful attraction in a woman.
The jerk on the other hand is inconsiderate, rude, teases the woman, never compliments her, doesn’t smile to often, is cocky and is often sarcastic. They tend to create tension on a surface level. By creating this tension there can be attraction.
Have you ever heard of sexual tension? It’s a build up between two people. You both feel that urge for sex and the feeling of tension makes the experience all that much rewarding when it happens. The same can be applied to attracting a woman. Creating a tension between both of you, like a game of cat and mouse is much more stimulating for a woman when you are in the initial stage of attracting her.
Here is the breakthrough: Women don’t prefer jerks over nice guys. They are just more attracted to them because jerks in general are not afraid to stir things up a bit. Jerks on one hand are not afraid to talk about sexuality, they’re not afraid to walk away; they make a woman feel that she needs to qualify herself. Jerk is a tainted word.
Jerk = Challenge
As opposed to the nice guy who is telling her everything she has heard 20 times a day.
You are beautiful
I love your eyes
Can I buy you a drink?
Let me get that for you
A nice guy acts interested in her; demostrating his attraction to her. You’re another guy who blatantly likes her and her natural response is, “how can I get rid of this typical guy politely.” This is usually why nice guys end up in the friend stage at the end of the night. A beautiful woman has preconditioned responses that she has engrained into her head from previous experiences to get rid of the nice guy when he approaches. (More on this inside the Black Book)
It’s not that women prefer inconsiderate over considerate or that they prefer rudeness to kindness, it is simply that they want to feel that you have status, that women don’t phase you, that you can be in control, and you can make her feel alive and on edge a bit. She needs that challenge. Something has to spark that inner desire.
You can’t respect someone that kisses your ass.
Your disinterest creates attraction for a beautiful woman.
Avoid these common mistakes in the attraction stages:
Being a nice guy
Letting her know that you like her
Buying her affection with presents or gifts
Giving all power to the woman
Looking for her approval
Complimenting her beauty
Here is an easy way to help some of you understand.
When you were a child think about how you interacted with girls. You teased them, pulled their hair, and thought they had cuties. You weren’t nice to them. You also realized that they were completely different than you. You were always the one who made decisions and the girl went along with it. You definitely weren’t afraid to approach them. If she wanted to play Barbie’s you would leave and go play GI Joes. It was your way or the highway. When you did include her in the activities you did she was always interested because she got to be one of the boys. And surprisingly they wanted to be part of your scene.
Flash back to adulthood and look at how you treat women now. You’re so wound up trying to get laid and bombarded with testosterone and anxiety that you have lost touch with all the instincts you had when you were a kid. If you could just go back to that kid state, take your natural logic and thought process of girls and then apply it in a playful adult way towards women today you would be successful off the charts. Learn to tease them a bit, create tension between you two, make the decisions and have her chase after you. You hold the power in the interaction.
Most men treat beautiful women like they are on a pedestal. Most beautiful women’s heads are overly inflated with the notion that they are above everyone because of their looks. However, deep down women realize that they are in fact the inferior gender and that males hold true dominance. Most beautiful women are insecure and waiting for that dominant male to grab them by the hand and show them the way. The problem is 95% of males out there have forgotten how to demonstrate their dominance and curb their anxiety.
Every time you feel scared or nervous or afraid to approach a woman just think back to when you were a kid. You weren’t afraid of girls then. You are programmed to feel anxiety when you become an adult from an evolutionary perspective. Learn to control the fear of rejection. It’s not real. It can only hurt you if you let it.
We’ll dive into curbing your fear of Anxiety through several exercises outlined in the Black Book.
THE BLACK BOOK
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The Black Book contains everything you need to know to successfully attract and attain beautiful women. You will quickly find that whatever perceptions or ideas you have on what works has little justification. We are going to show you step by step how to approach, open, attract, create comfort, seduce, build rapport and maintain attraction between you and any woman. There are sequences that must take place to propel you forward though each and every stage. If you miss one of the stages you’ll be hitting your head against the wall each and every time.
The Black Book is going to teach you the structure, the sequence and how to push through the hang ups. The methods described throughout the Black Book are backed by countless hours of in field experimentation and refinement. In other words we practice what we preach. Furthermore, The Black Book dives into a woman’s psyche, their social interactions, evolutionary needs, and how they are hardwired to respond to different situations and experiences. It’s just as much science as it is real world experimentation.
The Black Book will teach you how to read a woman’s body language, what she is really saying, how she acts in different social environments, the signs to look for to let you know if your on track or off. How to counter act her bitch guard, how to show her value, how to disable the alpha male in the group, but most importantly how to wind up with her at the end of the night.
We are not only going to show you how but also provide examples, scripts, and material that you can use throughout each and every step of the process.
These are but a handful of the topics, discussion and techniques outlined in The Black Book.
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